This post is part of our Monthly Tips series.
I’m taking time off to enjoy a little year-end down time. In the meantime, I’ve curated some Weekly Tips for the diehards. The most popular ones seem to be the most humbling for me, so here are a few oldies but goodies to close out the year.
- There was the time I decided to participate in a 30-day challenge I created for a group of 100 or so clients, alongside everyone else. The goal: to boost our business development efforts in a month’s time by choosing one action each week from theMonday Morning Promise list. I reached out to four former clients in the process, which was both fascinating and humbling as I found myself guilty of three things that I passionately (albeit nicely) admonish others for.
- There was the time I got a pretty big hit to my ego when I wasn’t asked back to speak at a pretty big conference. I wrote about why I’d rather hide it than disclose it to a whole lotta people, and why it’s better for us all not to hide stuff like this.
- There was the time I got triggered by a question that someone (innocently) asked me via email and indulged in my reactive state by sending a lengthy and negative reply—one that included gems like me admitting to being triggered in a self-congratulatory way (‘Look how insightful I am!’) and then dumping all over my colleague mid-trigger.I wrote about critical lessons for us all in these cases, including the 24-hour rule.
My sister refers to times like these as AFGOs, which stands for Another Freakin’ Growth Opportunity. Unfortunately, I don’t know the acronym source to give credit where it’s due. I do know my own AFGOs do not seem to be decreasing with age, as I had once hoped.
Here’s to just the right amount of ego hits, ego boosts, and ego strength for us all in 2020.
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As the founder of The Get Real Project, I am the steward of our vision and our service offerings, as well as a workshop leader and keynote speaker. Above all else, I am an entrepreneur on a mission: to kick conventional business wisdom to the curb and transform how people work together as a result. I am also the co-author, with Charles H. Green, of The Trusted Advisor Fieldbook (Wiley, 2012).
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