Stephane Deslauriers, Executive Coach (EMBA, RCC™, CCC™)
I am a certified executive coach who is passionate about sociology, psychology, and anthropology.
This is how I accumulated more than 9,500 hours of individual coaching with 675 leaders, including 365 Canadians, 263 Europeans and 47 Africans. As a result, I have had the fantastic opportunity to work with most of the major consulting firms across the world—in North America, Europe, Africa and Asia. And since 2022, I have brought my experiences to bear for The Get Real Project’s extraordinary clients.
Also, I travel the world by bonding with the humans around me. Travelling is not a job but a mission for me—for work and fun. In the process, I love taking pictures and videos of what I see and live. Exploration is my main driver. Join me!
My Get Real Story
A few years ago, I held the position of strategic advisor for a major international firm. My job was to advise the Managing Partner and the Executive Committee regarding market positioning and internal governance management. I had been working with this team for over 6 years, and we had many wins together. The strategy was working very well.
And then … the composition of the Executive Committee changed. Confident in the work accomplished with the previous Executive Committee, I was sure that our work together would naturally continue. After all, we were only in the preliminary phase of the plan and the previous phases had been so very positive. Did I mention I was confident?
The news came suddenly, without warning: The strategic mandate was stopped. Overnight, I went from Strategic Advisor to someone whose calls were no longer returned.
I soon realized that my “S” (Self-orientation in the trust equation) was my downfall. I was so focused on feeling good about myself and my estimation of my strategic value that I missed the red flags—and there were some.
I was disappointed to have lost a strategic mandate, but above all, I lost work that I personally love to do.
My lesson learned: never let my “S” get in the way of seeing a situation clearly. Beware when I sense my ego is in the lead. Focus always on the client, because they are who you really work for and who really matter.
My Get Real Services
I specialize in coaching participants on specific ways to apply what they have learned to real-world situations, with a particular focus on trust-based business development/selling.
I am also a professional coach and speaker, on trust-related topics such as strategic thinking, mobilizing clients and colleagues/employees, conflict resolution, the dynamics of influence, dealing with conflict and developing business with trust.
My Trust Temperament™:
I am proud of authoring three books:
- Spread Your Wings and Assume Your Leadership, which is drawn from the daily lives of more than 600 leaders of large organizations, and shares how to be an eagle in a well-structured, well-organized chicken coop.
- Mobilizing Brains, which contains all the tools necessary for leaders to be able to embody the charismatic and inspiring leadership of tomorrow.
- Selling Your Brain, which creates a real coaching experience in business development. Whether you are a consultant, notary, accountant, lawyer, strategist, publicist, financial adviser, architect, banker, engineer, analyst, computer scientist, or other profession where you have to sell yourself, this book relates to your everyday reality.
What Clients are Saying
“Stephane Deslauriers was great! He was enthusiastic and engaging. His insights were helpful and he kept us on track”—VP, Global IT Consulting Firm
“A huge thank you for your foresight, your sincerity, your frankness and your direct style”—Managing Partner from a Big Four Firm | Paris, France
“My business started not 17 years ago but two years ago when I met you and you coached me. Thank you for propelling my business to the next level. I owe you.”—Managing Partner, Global Law Firm | Montreal, Canada
Getting a Little More Personal
Words people often use to describe me
Determined and passionate. I NEVER give up on my dreams, and people both fascinate and motivate me.
What inspires me
Authenticity is key for me. I love real people, with all their strengths, weakness, talents, and quirks. Open-minded people who are open to life.
What brings me joy
Exploring the world, see a new country/city/community. I am like a sailor who leaves to explore then returns to port to find my family, my lovely wife Jacynthe, my children and my grandchildren—all of whom provide me the greatest joy in life.
What anchors me
Video creation, pictures, photos. I love to play with images, music and sound.
What drives me nuts
Manipulators—the one who put their own profit before the collective. People who judge others. Those who are not open to other “glasses,” seeing things only through their own prism.
My guilty pleasure
Hmmmm so many — I am an epicurean. So, pleasure, food, life!
A favorite quote
“If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up people to collect wood and don’t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.”—Antoine de Saint Exupéry
What I can’t do without
Music is always around me. I work, travel, sleep, live with a soundtrack. Every mood had this own.
My secret ambition
A trip around the world for several years with only a backpack as luggage.