Do you know Dan Harris? He’s co-anchor of Nightline on ABC News, and the author of 10% Happier, a book about how he discovered meditation “after having a live, nationally-televised panic attack on Good Morning America.”

It’s that time of year again. There’s a good chance you have holiday or year-end celebrations ahead, and a high probability you’re negatively anticipating—maybe even dreading—being with a family member or two. A politically-charged climate only makes this 10 times harder.

Last week’s tip focused on 10 negotiations pitfalls. This week offers a very specific checklist to use at your next negotiation. Live by each tenet and you’ll distinguish yourself not as a “good negotiator,” but as someone who negotiates from and with trust: