A test: What would the trusted advisor say next?

Andrea Howe
Category : Weekly tips December 17, 2018

This post is part of our Weekly Tips series.

It’s one thing to conceptually grasp the different ways you can offer value to clients, including the ways that a trusted advisor truly stands apart. It’s another thing entirely to embody it such that your in-the-moment reactions are consistent with your intentions. Take this little test to find out how well you generally do.

The scenario: You walk in to a client meeting, well prepared and with an already agreed-upon agenda. You exchange pleasantries as you take your seats, asking your client how things are going. He sighs loudly and says, “You know, it’s been a rough couple of weeks.”

As a trusted advisor, what would you say next?

Take a moment to write it down, then see how close you get to the “right” answer.

If you see yo ur value as more transactional, where your primary talents are to provide information and steer conversations towards specific business outcomes, you’ll likely see your client’s expression of emotion as atangent—a distraction from the task at hand—and say something well-meaning like this:

“Well, let’s be sure we don’t waste your time today. The first item on our agenda is …”

 
But you probably know better than that. You generally pick up on your clients’ cues, and you know not to ignore them.

Or do you?

There’s great risk that you’ll hear your client’s expression of concern in this case and immediately step in as problem-solver, not trusted advisor. Your well-meaning response will be something like this:

“How can we help?”

 
Or the slightly more advanced:

“I’m sorry to hear that. How can we help?”

 
One of these two responses is the most common for savvy professionals because you’re hard-wired to don your hero cape and fix stuff. Of course, it’s not bad to fix stuff; it just creates a more narrow relationship.

By contrast, when you see your value as a trusted advisor, or safe haven for tough issues, you’ll say something like this:

“Uh oh, that doesn’t sound good.”

 
Then … and this is important … you’ll pause to see where your client takes the conversation.

That’s a dramatically different in-the-moment response that reflects a profoundly different relationship, where you recognize that your client might need a sounding board for a tough issue the most—consciously or not. (Which might, by the way, be a tough issue that you know a lot about, a little about, or nothing about.)

Or your client might want to get right to the first agenda item. Either way, by responding to your client’s comment in an open and empathetic way, you’ve demonstrated some important things:

  • You’re paying attention;
  • You’re willing to go wherever your client wants to go;
  • You’re not afraid to deal with topics that might be emotionally-charged;
  • You’re the kind of person others can talk to about just about anything—whether they choose to take advantage of that now, later, or never.

By the way, I’m going to repeat a variation of something I said last week because it bears repeating: it’s tempting to think that your ability to be a trusted advisor is mostly out of your control because it depends on your clients’ desire for it, when that’s usually not true. If you wait for an invitation, you may never get it. You have to see your own value more broadly, and take a risk to create trust.

Excerpted from Trusted Advisor 24×7:The Video Series.

Make It Real

This week, practice being in trusted advisor mode rather than problem-solver mode. Create some quick improv drills with a colleague. Explore different empathetic ways to respond to your clients’ “tangents.” What do you discover?

Learn More

TAfieldbook

Discover why“premature solutions” is also the most pervasive problem in sales, from our friends at Trusted Advisor Associates, or brush up on other improv drills to help you raise your game in Chapter 8 of The Trusted Advisor Fieldbook.

The following two tabs change content below.
Andrea Howe

Andrea Howe

As the founder of The Get Real Project, I am the steward of our vision and our service offerings, as well as a workshop leader and keynote speaker. Above all else, I am an entrepreneur on a mission: to kick conventional business wisdom to the curb and transform how people work together as a result. I am also the co-author, with Charles H. Green, of The Trusted Advisor Fieldbook (Wiley, 2012).

Was this content valuable?
Get weekly tips delivered to your (virtual) doorstep

SHARE :

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.


Contact us | Subscribe