This post is part of our Weekly Tips series.
One of the five fundamental attitudes of leading with trust is “It’s not about you.”
Embracing an “it’s not about you” attitude requires that you recognize that much of what you hear, and of what happens, is not about you. Take the example of someone who appears to be angry at you. Consider that what you have might simply be an angry person in close proximity.
Mentally disassociating makes it possible for us all to spend less time managing our reactions and more time being present for others.1
1 Excerpted from The Trusted Advisor Fieldbook: A Comprehensive Toolkit for Leading with Trust
Bonus: Making it Real
This week, re-write your inner monologue.
When you hear that little voice in your head say, “I did something wrong” or, “They don’t like me,” reframe the issue in a way that takes you out of it. What else might be the cause? What’s going on in their world?
Make written notes.
At the end of the week, note what you’ve learned about yourself from this practice. What patterns or themes do you see?
- Find out why nobody cares about you and you should be glad they don’t, from our partners at Trusted Advisor Associates
- Learn more about why it’s not about you in Chapter 2 of The Trusted Advisor Fieldbook: A Comprehensive Toolkit for Leading with Trust.
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