You may know I was on vacation last month. It was actually more staycation than vacation, marked by a lot of good down time that included some high-quality online binge watching. And wouldn’t you know it, one night I got to see some great trust-building lessons in action thanks to a 12-year-old fiddler from Piney Flats, Tennessee.

Intimacy gets a lot of real estate on these virtual pages, and for good reason: trusted advisors are safe havens for tough issues, and intimacy is what earns you that safe haven designation. Today: a slightly different take on intimacy, with two reminders about how to build it in a way that can actually be—dare I say it—fun.

Have you ever forgotten someone’s name? Like, maybe, right after you learned it? Or worse, when you’ve known them for months/weeks/years and you have no good excuse for your inability to summon it up?